NLP Learning Systems Corporation
PO Box 261907
Plano, TX 75026
Computer Learning Center
April 30, 1997
NLP Learning Systems
4837 Keller Springs Road
Dallas, Texas 75248
The last three years, there have been circumstances in my marriage that I let control my life. I am a kind, caring, and loving person with a positive outlook on life. However, 1 have chosen to let the emotion of anger control me. To the point: anger, harboring anger, festering anger is not congruent with my personality.
My profession is an Instructor/Teacher/Educator/Facilitator. When I am in class or involved in a session, I have the ability to, temporally, put the emotion of anger behind me. When I am on brake, relaxing, or on some type of free time the anger would come back, and in some cases be disabling to me.
ln, February, 1 enrolled in the NLP Level One Program. in fact, 1 started on week 5 of the six week program. That night we were taught some anchoring methods and ref raining. On both methods, I chose to use the subject of anger. I have to admit, I did the techniques half heartedly. 1 mean, I have been angry at some of my wife's activities for over two years, how can some technique solve the problem of anger for me.
That night when I got home, I did not feel any differences. The BIG CHANGE came the next day.
The next morning when I woke up, I felt different. I felt an extreme amount of energy. My body felt lighter, I felt a great sense of power, and great sense of control in my life. What I realized ... "I was not stuck in anger!" It hit me, every morning I would wake up and open my closet and get all the anger I could find and put it in my pockets or any where I could place it. I would carry that anger around with me. In times where I did not necessarily feel angry, I could reach down in my pocket and find plenty to spare.
After I realized that I was not stuck in anger, I tried to find ways to bring it back. I would think of the horrible actions or words my wife would present to me. I thought it would bring the anger back. Instead, I started to laugh. It hit me that I was stuck in anger and I did not want to go back to being stuck.
That afternoon, my mother called me. She would, most of the time, ask "How are things?" Being honest, I would reply, "Hanging in there, Mom" or "Just taking things one day at a time." This particular day when she asked I said "Mom, I feel great" and when I said it too her, I sincerely meant it. Emotionally, I felt great, I was not stuck in anger. My mother responded with "So, your circumstances must have changed (meaning my relationship with my wife)." I simply said, "No mom, 1 have changed." 1 told mom that the anger was behind me. If I wanted to find that anger, I would have to go into the past, and I was not willing to go into the past, I am ready to move forward. Of course, she did not understand.
That afternoon, I had another test on anger. My cleaners are located behind my house. That afternoon, I went to pick up my clothes and the cleaners gave me my wife's friend's clothes. At first, I felt a sense of anger, but instead of getting mad and confronting the issue with my wife, I saw many options in which to handle the situation. One of which was not to let the anger control me.
Tony, it has been 3 months since the initial training. Each day, in some form or fashion, I have tested the emotion of anger. I can become angry, if I choose, but what I have discovered is that I do not become stuck in anger.
NLP is and continues to be a LIFE CHANGING EXPERIENCE for me. Thank you for the time, the training, the love, the patience, and most of all thank you for you.